![]() ![]() Even though I do this with good intentions (I’m just trying to help!), we all end up paying the price with me exhausted and them frustrated.Ī perfect example is when quarterly funder reporting approaches. Before I begin my analysis, I meet with program to close gaps in missing data. This often prompts program staff to share their data entry challenges as the reason for the backlog. Feeling badly, I will often slide into the rescuer role and extend their deadline, sometimes even offering to help with their data entry. Closer to the deadline, I will quickly shift into the victim role, blaming program for not giving me enough time to finish my analysis. Yael: As an internal evaluator, I tend to move between victim and rescuer when tension arise for program staff due to funder deadlines, operational demands, and data entry constraints. My go-to way of helping is leaping in to solve the problem, often taking over someone else’s responsibilities. There are three distinct roles in the Karpman Triangle: the Victim (person feeling helpless and oppressed), the Persecutor (person feeling entitled or angry), and the Rescuer (person feeling like the hero for stepping in, or feeling resentful and unappreciated). Let’s turn things over to Yael to show us an example of how the Drama Triangle recently played out in her work. The Karpman Triangle, more commonly known as the Drama Triangle, is a social model that offers a map to relationships experiencing conflict. ![]() ![]() Today, we’ve teamed up to share a tool we find helpful for understanding and shifting this dynamic. We’re Yael Gil’Adi and Elizabeth DiLuzio from Good Shepherd Services, and we’ve been there. Whether it’s intended or not, our role as evaluator can trigger a power dynamic between us and other stakeholders. At its worst, this dynamic can cause feelings of frustration, resentment, and helplessness for those involved. ![]()
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